You know the truisim "there's no such thing as a stupid question?"
But a question, actually the SAME question, can be condescending, or really seeking answers. My day yesterday was bracketed by the question "How do you bike in those heels"?
The first asker, a mid 40's looking guy in spandex kit and clipless pedals, pulled up next to me at a light and said
"How do you manage to bike in those heels- it looks really hard" Kind of like the famous